By Dr. Joel Block

Attention Boomers! Rekindle the flame and turn up the heat with these six suggestions.
1. Open your eyes occasionally while kissing.
The visual stimulation will probably increase your arousal, as well as provide your partner useful feedback on how you are feeling about the kiss. Some studies have suggested that men bond […]

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By Joel Block, Ph.D
Using age as an excuse
The obstacles to great sex are not age-related factors. Anyone at any age can suffer from boredom, be “too busy” for sex, or let duties get in the way of pleasures. But some people use age as an excuse for failing to surmount these obstacles to sexual pleasure. […]

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By Joel Block, Ph.D.
Lily ruminates about her failed marriage, beating herself up for mistakes she’s made and opportunities she’s missed.
Tom, a recovering alcoholic, obsesses about the years he lost to booze and castigates himself for the people he hurt and the relationships he damaged.
For Lily and Tom, both in the third act of […]

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By Dr. Joel Block
Relationship wisdom is like diet advice, most of it sounds good, but it doesn’t work. Here, the real thing gleaned from many years of treating couples:
1.Very often the initial attraction—what draws you to your lover—becomes, some years later, the basis for divorce.
Remember that guy that you chose because he appeared to be […]

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By Dr Joel Block
Often, what couples term “boredom” is a cover-up for long-standing but hidden resentment. The operative word here is “hidden.” Nearly every couple is going to experience flare-ups in response to an immediate situation, the occasional squabble, the slamming-door exit or the exasperated burst of tears.
Anger can help but…
Squabbles and even a fiery […]

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By Joel Block, Ph .D.

Studies have shown that people who have high self-esteem live longer, healthier lives, continue to enjoy sex throughout their lives, and are more optimistic about the future. At midlife, most of us suffer an occasional blow to our esteem. We look in the mirror and recoil at the image of our […]

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By Joel Block Ph.D.
Losing enthusiasm
Some people lost their enthusiasm for life as a natural result of losing their sense of optimism. They have allowed negative life experiences, difficult challenges, rejections, or setbacks to quell their sense of hope in the future. By middle age, the habit of pessimism has begun to take a toll […]

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By Joel Block Ph.D.

Is this you?
You may have noticed them sitting at a nearby table in a restaurant. Well-dressed, middle-aged, attractive, the man and woman exchange few words. When they speak, they look past each other as often as they look at each other. They are together, but they don’t connect. Most observers would rightly […]

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By Dr. Joel Block(Part One)
There are two main ways for the offender (and the offended) to make things worse when confronted with a trust violation:
One is withdrawal, to keep everything bottled up inside. The other is to erupt, to emote without restraint. If you are having too many conversations with yourself, you are probably not […]

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By Joel Block, Ph.D.

Sexual infidelity is the headline grabber when most people think about betrayals in love relationships. But, there are everyday breaches of trust that slide under the radar and can erode even the strongest of relationships.
A small lie about a purchase, a slight exaggeration about a job promotion, a cover-up about a […]

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