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  1. Penni
    February 29, 2008 at 7:27 am | |

    When my Granddaughter Nadia passed away I saw a miracle happen. Nadia told us that she was going to die. We heard her but did not beleive it. In less than a year she passed away with a brain tumor. Nadia is an angel. Even the day she passed away I saw so many miracles. I would like to share the miracles with those who are greiving from loosing a child then you will know there is a God in Heaven.

    1. dalsora
      January 28, 2013 at 9:10 am | |

      I lost my only daughter to cancer, she was only 21y/o.
      No words can describe my devastation.
      It is hard to beleive there is God
      She came to me in my dream at the day of her funeral, she was telling me “Please do not let them take me away, I want to stay here with you!” I do not know meaning of it?

  2. Jon P. Painter
    May 25, 2009 at 8:56 am | |

    We just recently lost our beautiful granddaughter. She was hit by a car while running to get in shape for a big race.It was NOT her fault. The man said he must have fallen asleep!! He was NOT supposed to be driving as he lost his license for D.U.I.

    We are hurting so bad!
    It is hard to believe she is gone! She had a job as a spanish teacher in S.C.
    Thank you for giving me this space to let you know about this..
    Jon Painter

    1. Shari S
      February 19, 2011 at 9:20 pm | |

      My Prayers are with you and your family.

  3. GamGam
    June 15, 2009 at 6:28 am | |

    Thank you for writing an article on the loss of a grandchild. My six week old granddaugher, Ava Lola, recently passed away to SIDS. Dealing with the pain in my son & daughter-in-laws eyes has been harder for me than my own grief and loss of our little girl. This article said exactly what I’m dealing with…I want to fix it for them and there’s nothing I can do but reassure them that she is truly an Angel now:)

    Cheryl Rondeau
    Naples, FL.

  4. ZELLA DAVENPORT
    July 5, 2009 at 5:33 pm | |

    WE LOST MY GRANDSON IN OCT 2007. HE HAD CEREBAL PALSEY AND A SEIZURE DISORDER,HE WAS 15 YRS OLD. MY DAUGHTER DIDN’T THINK I HAD A RIGHT TO GRIEVE. SHE TOLD ME MOTHERS PAIN TRUMPS GRANDMOTHERS PAIN. SHE NEVER REALIZED THAT PART OF MY PAIN WAS WATCHING MY CHILD GO THRU THE LOSS OF A CHILD. IT WAS HEARTBREAKING. WE LOST EACH OTHER ALSO. WE HAVEN’T SPOKE FOR OVER A YEAR. THANK YOU FOR YOUR ARTICLE.

  5. Dee
    August 26, 2009 at 7:47 am | |

    We lost our baby granddaughter on June 26th to SIDS. She missed her 1st birthday by 13 days, and she was our 9th grandchild. The pain is intense, and is coupled with the pain of watching my son and his wife go through this. I have no bag of tricks to help this for them. Your articel was very helpful-thanks!

  6. Grammy
    February 16, 2010 at 9:37 am | |

    I have been searching the internet for something to help deal with the pain of losing my beautiful 3yr old granddaughter only 3 months ago. The pain is so intense. As a parent I’m supposed to protect my son I can’t and I feel helpless.

    Thank you for sharing your grief, my thoughts are with you and your family..know you’ve helped me today…

  7. djslay
    March 1, 2010 at 7:37 am | |

    We just lost our two beautiful granddaughters (ages 3 & 4) in a tragic house fire. To have it happen so unexpectedly is especially hard to understand. I pray we can help our son and remaining grandson get through this difficult time. Thanks for letting me share. God Bless You All.

  8. Longwed
    June 24, 2010 at 7:14 am | |

    I lost my beloved 6 month old grandson, Will, to a very rare form of cancer. He was diagnosed at the age of 8 weeks and battled for four months before earning his angel wings. It has been so hard on me. I mourn the loss grandson – all my hopes and dreams for him are gone. I also grieve for my son ( my baby) who has lost his baby. No mother wants to see her child hurting, no matter how old that child is. My son and daughter-in-law are amazing. Their philosophy is that cancer took enough from our family; it will not take anymore. They have been strong for their two other little boys and have set up a foundation to in memory of Will. Our family has adopted a “new normal” but I miss the way things used to be.

  9. B's nana
    July 15, 2010 at 2:55 pm | |

    We lost our beautiful grandson last September at 4 month due to a virus. He passed away within 24 hours of being admitted to hospital, just 3 days after developing a mild cold. It was such a shock that I am still have some very difficult days. My daughter and son-in-law are doing ok, they don’t seem to show any emotion in front of us, although I know my daughter has some very difficult days. I ask her how she is coping and she says, what else am I to do. It breaks my heart.

  10. GrameJan
    July 15, 2010 at 5:36 pm | |

    My daughter had twins, one girl healthy. the boy twin, jack had HLHP, a sever heart deformity that we later learned is the most comon birth defect. He was in the CCICU for 7 months, two open heart surgeries, abdominal kidney dialisys, intubated the entire time, blood transfushions into his head artery, shunts, so much pain medication he had to be detoxed because the pain medication stopped working. He could not even be held because of all the equipment. Finally after the second heart surgery, i saw his eyes pop open and they did not track. i knew he was brain dead. My daughter had to decide to turn off the machines, and held him while he died. I live in RI she lives in NC. Often her husband would not let me go to NC to see my grandson and I NEVER held hem. I was not there when he died, My daughter was Alone. When I did go my daughter cried on my shoulder telling me her spouse told her to “stop blubbering” !! He was cold and NEVER cried and let her express her emotions. I was there about five time though out the seven months. I suffered more pain watching my daughter cry and suffer than watching my grand son suffer.

    I will be one year this September 6, my grandson died. My son in law wants to be alone, and asked me NOT to go to NC. I am in so much pain, I feel like I could break in half!! My daughter is a good person, she is suffering and I can NOT do a thing to hold and help her during the aniversary day. She does have Sarah (the surviving twin) and a 6 year old son. I took care of Sarah for the first three months of her life. I am also denied a lot of axcess to her. My arms feel empty. I bonded with Sarah. griefing is NOT easy and at this point I see no ending.

  11. ccazanas
    July 20, 2010 at 1:14 pm | |

    On May 22 my 18 year old grandson was killed in a auto accident. It still seems unreal to me. His parent are divorced and now remarried to new spouses, so I have 3 other sets of Grandparents involved in the loss. 2 families strugglying, my ex-daughter-in-law is getting help and talking. My Son is distant and not sharing anything with me, this has been almost unbearable, but God is in control an each day will bring new ways to cope. God Bless you for caring about the “forgotten” grieve of grandparents.

  12. Grandma M
    August 13, 2010 at 11:23 am | |

    I tell people all the time I cry just as many tears for what my daughter has to go through as for the loss of my beautiful granddaghter. She was the first grandbaby, named if honor of me, and I cry everyday for the loss that this whole family has had to endure.

  13. Grandma P
    November 14, 2010 at 4:24 pm | |

    Thank you for posting this article. We lost our 8 month old grandson to SIDS on October 27th. The “double grief” is nearly overwhelming.

  14. morningangel
    November 19, 2010 at 10:07 am | |

    I lost my grand daughter almost 3 years ago,she was 3 days shy of being amonth old. He mother was drinking and took the baby to bed with her,she rolled over and smothered her in her sleep.Although the coronor’s office said it was sids on the birth cetificate,they could not find anything wrong with her. I have a very hard time time dealing with my grand daughter’s mother,I cannot even stand to be i the same room with her. Everytime I think I have healed, I go thru weeks at a time where all I want to do is cry. We,(my husband and I),promised that baby girl, that we would never let anything bad happen to her, and we failed, how do you get past that? How do I get past this unbearable grief??

  15. beachgirl
    November 23, 2010 at 5:42 am | |

    We lost our 5 year old grandaughter 2 wks ago to heart disease. She was a beautiful, inspirational child who made the world a better place for everyone who had the priviledge of meeting her. She was progressing so well but just stopped breathing. The pain for my husband and me is unbearable..and watching our son and his wife grieve is almost too hard for us to handle. We feel that we can do nothing to help them..how will we ever get through Christmas?

  16. Gramma A
    November 29, 2010 at 7:21 pm | |

    I lost my precious youngest grandaughter in August of this year, she was 4 1/2 years old. She died in a car accident. I hurt so much for my son, she was his life. I find it so hard to talk to him when he comes for a visit, as I’m unable to control my tears. Therefore, I feel that he doesn’t come as often or phone as he doesn’t want to upset me. It’s so difficult for him also, as he usually had her with him when he came to visit. I really need to communicate more with him, but not sure what to do. I do call him if I haven’t heard from him for awhile, he doesn’t always return my calls. Him and his wife were separated, so he is alone. How does one cope with such a loss? I know we have to talk about her, but when I do, or if someone else does, I start crying. I’m trying to be strong for my son’s sake, but at the same time feel like I’m losing him too. As others have said, the double grief is overwhelming.

    1. MawMawD
      April 25, 2011 at 8:31 pm | |

      I know your pain of not feeling like you can help your son with his own pain. We lost my 8 year old grandson in a freak hunting accident in Nov. My son said “when you lose a grandparent, aunt, or parent, you lose your past, but losing my son….. I’ve lost my future”. How painful. I don’t think we have to be strong all the time, but need to try to hold it together when with our sons. I’ll pray for both of us and our sons!

    2. kathymjones
      September 3, 2013 at 1:29 pm | |

      It’s still so soon for you. You will find as time passes, it will get easier in ways you never dreamed of. I never believed that until I had to go through it. I feel I have to be strong around my son who lost his son. And we do talk about his son, and as time goes by, it’s a lot easier to talk about & remember the good times. We actually laugh about things now. Seems impossible but I think we’re all stronger than we think we are.

  17. Shari S
    February 19, 2011 at 7:27 pm | |

    In April of 2010 my daughter gave birth to a beautiful baby they named Violette. She was perfect, big eyes, dark hair and cute as a button. A day after taking her home my daughter got a call from the doctors saying that she needed to get Violette to the childrens hospital as soon as possiable because some blood work they had taken came back and didn’t look good. Within hours we learned that Violette had Leukemia-AML. We did not see it coming and we were all in shock. They did chemo, blood trans, kidney dialysis, she looked like the the million dollar baby with all the machines.We took turns staying the nights so that she was never alone, we played music, read her books, and prayed. It hurt my heart to watch my daughter and her boyfriend stand next to Violette’s crib and see the hurt in their eyes. Violette fought hard but after 44 days she lost her fight and bacame a angel on June 3, 2010. These past 8 months have been the hardest months of my life and I miss her everyday.

  18. MawMawD
    April 24, 2011 at 12:39 pm | |

    This site is so helpful. Though no one can tell us how to not be in so much pain, it let me know that I am not losing my mind. In November of 2010, my 8 year old grandson passed away after an accident at his dad’s hunting camp. An A-frame that was built to hoist a deer for cleaning, was pulled over and hit my grandson in the back of the head. He was in the hospital for 9 days before he passed. I can’t seem to help my son and daughter in law as I am in such pain and I fear totally breaking down in front of them. I also am so very angry at the man who did not take the time to do the safety check and actually pulled the pipe on to my Grandson. He has children of his own and can hug his children. My christian upbringing tells me to forgive him and also to know that my grandson in “in a better place” but I want him here. The pain is so horrible. HOW do you deal with it? I am a single parent and have no family nearby except my daughter and she is so busy with her husband and his children.

    1. kathymjones
      September 3, 2013 at 1:25 pm | |

      I’m so sorry. There is really no pat way to “deal with it”. I think everyone’s different in how they deal with things. It’s been almost 14 months since I lost my 19 year old grandson. Every single day is different. Some days all I can do is cry, cry, cry. Other days I just try to deal and sometimes I do it well. I do think the pain begins to lessen a tiny bit. The memories of happy times are what’s best to dwell on. I wish you peace.

  19. clara
    August 3, 2011 at 8:03 pm | |

    My grandson passed away about a month ago and I am struggling to keep things together. I miss him so much as I used to baby sit him lots. He was a special little boy and I thought we would have him for a long time not a short time. He was 17 months old and he passed away while he was with me. He was born with brain damage and struggled his 17months of life. We were building a home to suit his needs now the house is not longer important and I have such a loss there. I seem to cry a lot now.

    1. Josifchin
      June 14, 2013 at 7:02 pm | |

      I am so sorry for your loss. I to, have lost a grandson, only 3 days old. The pain of losing a grandchild is so hard. You are in my prayers.

    2. Sandra
      February 25, 2014 at 8:58 am | |

      Hi, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your grandson. I know your pain for I just lost my 15 month old granddaughter. She was hospitalized for two weeks and we thought she was getting better, but her health declined. She died January 16, 2014. It is still painful and we cry everyday still. We wish the ultimate that we could have her back. It is very hard dealing with this. Like you we was working some things to bring her home and then she died. Nothing seems important anymore. I understand and I am praying for your family and as praying my family come to terms with our loss.

  20. Josifchin
    June 14, 2013 at 7:01 pm | |

    When my first grandson died after living only 3 days, our family was devastated. We mourned together and participated in the March of Dimes walk and did everything we could only 4 months ago ) has had a hard time dealing with the pregnancy. She needs time to herself and my son has asked that we not contact her until she is ready. She desperately wants a baby and is so sad that it is just to hard for her to be around us. She remembers how wonderful our life was when she was pregnant with our angel and the happiness we all shared. She feels we are experiencing that with our daughter right now. We are, of course, happy but still grieving ourselves. Even our daughter, who is 4 months pregnant, cries daily over the loss. It is so sad. I am really hoping that my daughter in law can come back to us soon. I want to help her grieve but I feel she needs the time to step back and not be reminded of what she is missing. Life is just so sad.

  21. kathymjones
    September 3, 2013 at 12:55 pm | |

    On July 3rd, 2012, my 19 year old grandson, my heart, Christopher, was crossing a road and was killed by a drunk hit and run driver. This was the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. We raised Christopher while his dad was in Navy training to be a SEAL and overseas a lot. My son, Scott, has always been very adventurous, happy, and strong. When he called me to tell me that Christopher had been killed, he was crying so hard he could barely speak. I cried too, and when we hung up, I cried hysterically. The following days, I was able to be “strong” while talking to my son. He was terribly devastated. Lucky for my husband and I, all our friends in our small town knew we had raised Christopher, and they all loved him too, and therefore, we did have a lot of support. But being in NC and my son in AZ was extremely difficult. We did travel to AZ to go to the site of Christopher’s death. And I’m so glad to say law enforcement caught the driver 8 days later. He got a mere 2.50 years. This is another painful slap in our faces. I am so sorry for all the losses on this page. I do understand and I hope you’re doing ok these days.

  22. NanaDee
    January 8, 2014 at 10:37 am | |

    My sweet precious grandson Tobias was delivered by C-Section on Christmas day 2013 3 months premature. On January 4th his lung collapsed, his parents were also told he had a bacterial and blood infection and then MRSA. We lost little Tobi early on the morning of the 5th. This is so tragically hard on me his grandma. I live in upstate NY and my daughter in NC. I’ve as of yet not been able to travel due to weather and medical conditions with my husband. The funeral is tomorrow and I’m just beside myself. Knowing I will never my meet nor hold my grandson has taken the breath out of me. Knowing I can’t be there for my daughter who needs me so much is just as heart wrenching.