Q. . My parents, in their eighties, are superstitious about making a will. Already my siblings are fighting over who should get what when they die. I’m ready to scream!
– F.R. Atlanta, GA
Gary: I think a good scream would probably do everybody some good. It probably wouldn’t hurt if your parents were around too when you start your screaming. They should know what their ridiculous superstitions are doing to their children. Ask them if they enjoy seeing their children fight. Tell them that nobody wants them to die but at some point soon they better face reality and make some decisions. Do they really think if they never make a will they will never die? By the way, have they made arrangements as to where they would like to be buried (or cremated). If they are superstitious when it comes to deciding how to divide up the booty, I can imagine how high on the superstition scale making burial arrangements rate.
Unfortunately, friction among brothers and sisters often occurs when parents don’t take the responsibility of doing what they have to in dealing with the inevitable. Since, it doesn’t appear that your siblings will step up to the plate and act like human beings, it’s up to you to stop treating your parents like children and let them know what’s going on right under their noses and behind their backs. Talking to them about what will happen “after they’re gone” won’t be easy but you better deal with it now or get used to screaming.
Gary Geyer is Chief Editor of Let Life In.