I am sure that women have been craving for more than an orgasm since they started having sex. I think that after 50 we are more conscious about what sex really is for us. It’s not about penetration, but the whole art of lovemaking that includes sensuality, seduction, and the “after math”. Romance is everything, sex is great when our ears are filled with loving whispers and our partner’s ability to make us feel special is the clue. –PJ
I guess I’m not only a woman but also a man! I need the love and intimacy, but ALSO the orgasm or else I feel incomplete. –Mary
If I show her how much I love just being in bed with her, it don’t matter if I only last 2 or 3 min. –Randy
For me, at 53, I have experienced new and exciting things and my partner was honest about how he felt. The most important part of having a great sex life is communication. I thank my partner for being open with me and helping me learn more about myself then I ever thought possible. –Kitty
I am a monogamous woman who really enjoys sex, but I am married to a poly-amorous (?) man who had an open marriage with his late wife. He loves me, but he lost interest in sex with me a long time ago. He would not understand this article. Sex for him is just sex and it’s meant to be done in groups. It’s about being kinky, not loving. I even viewed porn with him for several year to create some kind of sex life with him. But it just doesn’t work for him or me. This leaves me feeling lonely and inadequate. I wonder how many woman find themselves in this kind of relationship? –Pam
[To Pam] I fell sorry for you as am a 49 year old man that is in a relationship with a 55 year old woman and we are having the time of our lives. You need to dump the ass-hole and find a real man. We are out there!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you really want happiness you will dump him
–Steve
Most men think that all women are the same. Maybe that woman who is satisfied with 2 or 3 minutes isn’t really all that sexual and is glad it’s over with that fast. Seriously, though, a woman who needs and wants great sex has to be with a great sex partner…anything less is going to be leaving her dissatisfied. If the man can’t maintain for long, he can use paraphernalia and other techniques to totally satisfy his woman. For women, it’s a lot easier to satisfy their man if they really are sexual and not just doing it as a chore. The problem is that it’s very difficult of meet your perfect match…especially in the later years. Oh, and not all over 60 women don’t like sex, and one orgasm is an appetizer to some of us.
I read this funny one a few days ago:
The reason women fake orgasms is because they think men care…
Ha!
I think Steve has the right idea. I stopped worrying just about if I pleased my husband years ago and started wondering if he was pleasing me. Sex is not just for the man being pleased but the woman also by her partner.
Sex was something that was introduced to me when I was 18 years old and for which I was totally unprepared.
From reading your articles and readers comments, it is patently obvious that most of us had little or no “Schooling” in the art of being a great sexual partner – which is a shame – and has made a great many of us poorer for it.
It is unfortunate that many men use women simply as a means of self gratification, without realizing that they are only receiving half the pleasure.
There is nothing more satisfying than climaxing in unison with your partner.
I was lucky enough to meet a woman while in my mid twenties, who taught me how to be a good partner and I will be forever grateful to her.
I am now 71 years old and still have great sex at least twice a week and my wonderful wife orgasms at least twice each session.
And NO I don’t need Viagra as I have constantly used it and not lost it !!
At 59, I find myself wanting sex more often. But it’s not just the act of sex; it has to be mutual desire, the total act of pleasing each other with consideration for not only our orgasms but also for the trust we have that this is for each other, without thought to ourselves.
From the first day of sex, in my late teens, it has always been about my partner, her complete satisfaction. My satisfaction was and remains secondary because, and I know this sounds weird, to me the sensuality of it all is so fulfilling.
The sites, sounds, smells, the touch and taste all are so important to me. I don’t want to be deprived of any of that. And while an orgasm is pleasurable, it is not the first and only goal.
After all, there is so much pleasure in pleasing her for hours. I find myself so turned on, so crazy pleasing my partner first. Why deprive myself and her of that?
I’m a 52 year old woman, and orgasm is a very important part of sex for me. I’m uncomfortable if tension builds and there’s no release. My husband enjoys me reaction to him, as I enjoy his.
Anyone who says orgasm isn’t important has never had one.
I from India.In india most women dissatisfy in their sexual life. coz men are think that women are passive partner. and men are no clue how to satisfy their women.coz sex knowlage is totally band in indian culture.It is unfortunate. It’s a wonderful article.