Comments on: Your New Love vs. your Adult Children. http://www.letlifein.com/2008/09/30/your-new-love-vs-your-adult-children/ 50 plus Community & Magazine Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:30:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Lucy http://www.letlifein.com/2008/09/30/your-new-love-vs-your-adult-children/#comment-1943 Lucy Mon, 28 Dec 2009 06:41:00 +0000 http://www.letlifein.com/2008/09/30/your-new-love-vs-your-adult-children/#comment-1943 I've read a lot of articles like this, and yes, they're helpful. But aren't we overlooking the other aspect - that of the new partner in these relationships having to take such a back seat when the adult children come to stay. Is it fair that they treat the - now joint - home as a place to trash? Should new partner, who has been regarded politely but as some sort of invisible housekeeper, be expected to clear up after them. With any other house guests we could simply ask nicely, "Please strip the bed when you leave", "Could you give me a hand with..." and whose offended by that. Frankly, one shouldn't have to ask anyway. But it is such a red rag to a bull to even suggest that they pull their weight. The answer that it's still their home doesn't apply. It isn't. It's their Mom/Dad's home and their new partner's home first and foremost, surely? Any thoughts? I’ve read a lot of articles like this, and yes, they’re helpful. But aren’t we overlooking the other aspect - that of the new partner in these relationships having to take such a back seat when the adult children come to stay. Is it fair that they treat the - now joint - home as a place to trash? Should new partner, who has been regarded politely but as some sort of invisible housekeeper, be expected to clear up after them. With any other house guests we could simply ask nicely, “Please strip the bed when you leave”, “Could you give me a hand with…” and whose offended by that. Frankly, one shouldn’t have to ask anyway.
But it is such a red rag to a bull to even suggest that they pull their weight. The answer that it’s still their home doesn’t apply. It isn’t. It’s their Mom/Dad’s home and their new partner’s home first and foremost, surely?

Any thoughts?

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]]> By: vonna117 http://www.letlifein.com/2008/09/30/your-new-love-vs-your-adult-children/#comment-1464 vonna117 Tue, 28 Oct 2008 22:27:58 +0000 http://www.letlifein.com/2008/09/30/your-new-love-vs-your-adult-children/#comment-1464 I am quite aware how this is, my oldest once made a comment about this..but I have been divorced a long time and raised my kids alone..so I told them..if they didnt like them..(who ever it was I chose)..they wouldnt stay..and if I did pick someone and you liked them..you dont have to get along..just respect my home...I will always chose my kids over a person in my life...but when I am living with someone...then it is a tie...I will never stop seeing my children...that the other person has to understand...with that said ..it will work..sometimes you can talk to your kids about your happiness and it should be important to them as well... I am waiting for my youngest to graduate...before I have a serious relationship... Im still looking..but to me I would rather concentrate on my last childs time at home then start a new relationship...that way I can enjoy watching my child grow and move on..and then, I can start my adventures!!! what ever they may be! I am quite aware how this is, my oldest once made a comment about this..but I have been divorced a long time and raised my kids alone..so I told them..if they didnt like them..(who ever it was I chose)..they wouldnt stay..and if I did pick someone and you liked them..you dont have to get along..just respect my home…I will always chose my kids over a person in my life…but when I am living with someone…then it is a tie…I will never stop seeing my children…that the other person has to understand…with that said ..it will work..sometimes you can talk to your kids about your happiness and it should be important to them as well…
I am waiting for my youngest to graduate…before I have a serious relationship…
Im still looking..but to me I would rather concentrate on my last childs time at home then start a new relationship…that way I can enjoy watching my child grow and move on..and then, I can start my adventures!!! what ever they may be!

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