By Laura Meade

How old are you now? If you’re reading this article on “Let Life In’ you are most likely past 50. And men, if you haven’t gotten it by now, it’s time you realized that women are different than men.

For the most part, when a man has sex his ultimate goal is orgasm. Everything he does during sex is geared to achieve it. Once he’s had it, he’s finished. He’s been a good lover. Good Night.

Women are not like that.

For a Woman, the Entire Experience Is what It’s All About

What women crave more than the orgasm is love and intimacy. That’s very difficult for men to understand. Women enjoy the closeness and the feeling of having the man spiritually with her as well as having him inside her. Yes, women enjoy sex and their orgasms but sometimes, they say, just being with a man is enough. She wants to be held and caressed and told how much she is loved and appreciated. She wants to know she’s pleasing the man and that he loves being with her, and her alone.

She wants to feel that it is she that is making him high, not a few drinks or a joint.

Foreplay is More Than Physical

A woman’s body not only needs physical foreplay before she is “in the mood” but her soul needs to be primed as well. She wants the man to feel it’s the sex with her that he wants -and not just the sex.

What is ‘Afterplay?’

A woman doesn’t want the sexual experience to end with his orgasm. Or even her orgasm. She wants him to remain for a while, both physically and emotionally. She wants that time so that she can fall even more in love with the man than she already is. If the man leaves too soon, he also will miss out on that opportunity.

In those final few minutes she would like to hear him say that she was great and once more hear him say, “I love you.”

So What Do Men Get Out of It?

For one thing, a sexual experience that two people are enjoying is richer and more enjoyable for both of you. It’s never too late to learn that. If you care enough to want to have sex with someone you’ll feel good about truly satisfying her.

And keep in mind, a woman who enjoys sex more will very likely want it more often. <<

Laura Meade is the author of the forthcoming book, “How Women can Get Everything they Want and Need.”